Decluttering When You Live With A Hoarder – 8 Helpful Tips!
Learn how to declutter when you live with a hoarder with these practical and helpful tips.
Living with a hoarder can be frustrating, stressful and embarrassing and even unsafe.
The problem is that hoarding is a psychological condition, which means that a hoarder can’t just stop hoarding even if they want to, without professional help.
No amount of nagging, threatening or begging will change their behavior.
However, there are a few things you can do that may help the situation and allow you to declutter your home even while living with a hoarder.
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Tips on How to Declutter When You Live with a Hoarder
#1. Understand that Hoarding is a Serious Disorder
You will need to treat the hoarder in your life with patience and compassion.
This isn’t easy to do when someone experiences real panic over the thought of throwing away even a scrap of paper and has loaded your home with useless junk that makes it impossible for you to relax on the sofa, cook in your kitchen or even take a shower in comfort.
But it is a necessity to deal with the problem in order to have any hope of getting your home decluttered.
#2. Learn Everything You Can about Hoarding
To better understand what your hoarding partner is going through you will need to learn as much as possible regarding hoarding.
Consider joining hoarding anonymous at www.hoarderanonymous.org. You can learn how others have helped people who have hoarding problems.
Deal with the Problem Head On, but with Compassion
While you can’t simply ignore the problem you need to deal with the problem with as much compassion as possible.
#3. Have a Sincere Talk with the Hoarder
Start by having a talk with the hoarder and try and get them to agree to see a hoarding professional to start dealing with the problem.
Reassure them that they have your support throughout the counseling.
#4. Designate a Storage Space for the Hoarder’s Stuff
Designate one room in your home, your garage, or rent or buy a large storage shed in which the hoarder can keep their stuff.
Explain that this is their space and that as long as they keep the area safe and free of fire hazards, they can keep anything they want in this space.
#5. Help the Hoarder Move things to the Designated Space
Help the hoarder move their items to the designated space.
However, allow them to be in control to avoid you having any urges to throw away items you may think are useless.
This will help make moving the objects as stress free as possible for the hoarder.
Keep in mind that moving the hoarder’s items from the rest of house will take some time and there may not be any way to rush the process without causing a great deal of distress to the hoarder.
#6. Set Boundaries
Make it clear that any shared space in the home has to be kept clutter free.
You may need to remind your partner to pick up items they leave laying around and move them to their special room.
#7. Continue with Professional Help
Try and keep the hoarder working with hoarding professional.
Hopefully, the hoarder will be able to deal with their hoarding problem and eventually be able to allow their hoarding area to be cleaned up.
#8. Focus on What You can Control
Remember, you don’t have control over other people’s actions.
Acknowledging and accepting this reality will help reduce the stress and frustration you feel about your home not being as clutter free as you would like it to be.
So, focus on what you can control (your own actions) and declutter your home as best as you can. No need worrying about what you can’t control.
How to Declutter When You Live with a Hoarder – Final Thoughts
Please keep in mind that what these steps may look easy to accomplish the process can be extremely difficult and change will occur slowly if at all.
Even when the area is cleaned up, the hoarder may still struggle with the problem of hoarding for the rest of their life.